Things you should NEVER discuss about your relationship.....

So, I came across this online on one of naija's forum site and decided to share with y'all to get one or two things....hope you find it interesting...
Sometimes we tend to share our relationships wahala or
joys with our friends, family and sometimes random
colleagues. There are so many reasons why we do, if
you’re riding on the waves of love with le boo, we tend
to update our bbm status, update facebook status, ping
friends to chat about how AWESOMELICIOUS your boo
is and how HE IS THE BESTESTESTEST boo since
"booness" began. Most of us are guilty. LOL. Some
other times when the ship is not riding smoothly we
become inspirational and update with sentimental things
that everyone can decipher that, ol’boy, e be like say
this one dey fight with her boo. Nothing wrong with
sharing these things with friends if done in moderation;
you don’t need to share EVERYTHING! Here are some
things you should try NEVER to share with others about
your partner, they can and will be used against you.
1.MONEY – Never tell anyone how much your boo
earns, or if you’re having money problems. People don’t
need to know this. Who wears the financial pants? Who
pays for what? If you have an agreement with le boo
about how you both want to manage your finances then
this should not be up for debate with your friends. The
"you can chop my money" status of your relationship
should be hidden.
2. BEDROOM – Do not share what went down last night,
how you were kissed senseless, how does this
information affect the price of garri in the market? If
your boo is a stallion and he steady gives you the " ",
keep it to yourself unless you don’t mind sharing him?
If you’re celibate avoid discussing it too as your friends
may envy you, and if you’re not celibate, you may be
tagged as “loose”. They will yimu no matter what.
3.DETAILS – Avoid giving details. “My boo’s favourite
food is Amala and gbegiri, my boo scratches her
bosoms first thing in the morning, my boo doesn’t like
this or that”. Why are you furnishing others with this
privileged information? Haven’t you heard stories where
a friend snatches le boo? Why do you think that
happens? They already know your boo's likes, dislikes,
habits e.t.c Do not tell any one where your boo's mumu
button is.
4. FIGHTS – Couples fight all the time, if you don’t fight
in your relationship then I put it to you that you are a
liar! LOL. Friction is normal as long as you kiss and
make up… but telling your parents, your friends about
every single quarrel will not help. Its always awkward
because your friends will always be on your side and
will keep condemning you boo… after you say they don’t
respect him/her, why should they? After you’ve forgiven
and moved on, those you told will always remember.
This point is null and void if your boo is abusive!
5.SECRETS – We all have secrets and your boo may
have told you some of his/hers, it would be totally out
of place for you to share something confidential like that
with others. Also, if you have a secret you’re keeping
from your boo then you should never tell someone else
that “biko I don’t want him/her to find out or my boo
doesn’t know about this oh”…you’re only giving
outsiders ammunition. What if they accidentally or
purposely jabo the gist to your boo? Kasala go burst!
6. DREAMS/PLANS – Dreams, aspirations, plans are
things we share with people we love, when your boo is
telling you of the mansion he wants to build in 5 years
time, or the business he wants to start, avoid being a
tatafo, do NOT share this with anyone. Keep their plans,
aspirations between the both of you. Your partner will
feel betrayed when they find out you’ve been talking
about your private matters, they wouldn't trust you with
anything; If you discuss these matters with your
colleagues it breeds see-finish, biko stop. Your friends
will wonder what your saying about them to others if
your can be so open with details of your boo’s life.
People will think you have no self control… they will
never confide in you.


deola debisi said...

*claps* u tuk down notes 2 shey?.....#thumbs up#

Fagboye Oluwafemi said...

Lol....you know I'm never the kiss-and-tell-kinda bf, even when the time comes, nobody is worthy of discussing my intimate life with except my partner herself

Anonymous said...

This is sooooo true....thumbs up Oga Femi